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I accompanied someone to the police station to report a sexual assault, and this is what happened

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sexologist:

A regular client turned good friend was sexually assaulted and asked me if I would go with her to the police station to make the report. Here is what happened.

Things to note:

1. There may be some triggers around sexual assault, victim blaming, and incompetent police officers.

2. My friend gave me permission to write this and actively encouraged me to do so, as a learning opportunity for all of you. However her name has been changed to LC for this post.

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Hudson weekend with my beau: fireworks, delicious burritos, quiet moments and naps make for a good weekend.

Hudson weekend with my beau: fireworks, delicious burritos, quiet moments and naps make for a good weekend.

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A Band Called Death: The Punk Rock Fairy Tale That Almost Went Untold. A documentary on the 1970s punk trio band from Detroit called ‘Death’, and their new-found popularity decades after they disbanded.

Read the entire story on Wire it’s pretty trippy. But i really want to watch this Documentary on Death because as a really big punk rock fan, i’m kicking myself in the ass for not even knowing these guys existed. 

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Seven Surprising Facts About Asian-American and Middle Eastern Boys

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-Racial profiling is a routine part of life for Southeast Asian and Pacific Islander boys. In 2006 in Oakland, Calif., those of Samoan descent had the highest arrest rate of any racial or ethnic group, coming out to 140 arrests for every 1,000 Samoans in Oakland.  

-Asian-American, Pacific Islander and AMEMSA youth are the most frequent targets of school bullying. More than half of Asian-American teens are bullied in school. At 54 percent, the rate far exceeds the rates reported by white teens (31 percent), Latino teens (34 percent) and black teens (38 pecent). And yet, youth rarely report the incidents of harassment, fearing retaliation or because they lack the linguistic capability to voice their needs.

-The rates of bullying are higher for turbaned boys. For South Asian boys who wear turbans, nearly three-quarters, or 74 percent, report facing some religious or racial bullying. It’s common for turbaned youth to be called terrorists.

-Asian-American LGBTQ youth in particular deal with homophobia, transphobia and racism in school. Nearly one-third of Asian-American LGBTQ youth reported dealing with harassment based on their race. And in a California report of LGBTQ youth, Asian-American youth reported the highest incidence of bullying of any group of students of color.

-More than 40 percent of Hmong youth live in poverty. Rates for other Southeast Asian youth are similarly high. Thirty-one percent of Cambodian youth live in poverty, compared to 27 percent of black youth and 26 percent of Latino youth. Almost half of Bangladeshis too (44 percent) are considered low-income, along with 31 percent of Pakistanis.

-Many Asian-Americans are undereducated. Among the broader U.S. population, 19 percent of people in the U.S. lack a high school degree or GED, but more than 40 percent of Cambodians, Laotians and Hmongs, do not have a high school degree. 

-One in four Koreans in the U.S. is undocumented. And one in six Filipinos is undocumented. And between 2000 and 2009 the undocumented Asian Indian population grew 40 percent. The nation’s immigrant community is broad and multifaceted; these statistics attest to that.

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LGBTQ Muslims: A Diverse, Dynamic and Confident Community

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On Friday May 31, 2013, the Washington Post published an article about a retreat for LGBTQ Muslims and their partners that had taken place the weekend before. Along with five other individuals who were present at the retreat, the article included a section about me. Amidst positive reactions coming my way from friends and long lost acquaintances, I struggle with my own mixed reaction to the article. For a community whose identities, needs, and struggles are too often invisible within society, it is indeed a cause for celebration to be featured by a high profile media outlet. Yet, I worry that the article misrepresented me, and presented the LGBTQ Muslim community and the LGBTQ Muslim Retreat through a narrow lens.

The title of the section about me, “The Immigrant Experience,” felt misleading. While I feel connected to the immigrant experience, that phrase does not accurately capture my identity or my experience. My father is from Somalia and my mother is a white American whose family has been in the United States for many generations. Though I was born in Somalia, I was born a United States citizen. This, along with the fact that English is my mother’s primary language and that she was raised to navigate American society, has privileged me in a way that most immigrants and first generation Americans do not experience.

I want to make clear: when I speak of the challenges of being a refugee, I include the experiences of many of my Somali family members, but not my own.

The piece also states that when I came out to my family, I “felt pushed away by the Somali community.” Astoundingly, I asked the reporter to say that I was rejected by some Somalis — not all of them. I have not had a blanket experience of homophobia from Somalis (or Muslims, for that matter). I conveyed to her that these are complex and nuanced experiences — ones not easily summed up by a reporter on a deadline with a tight word limit. The multiplicity of reactions from straight Muslims — including outspoken LGBTQ allies and supportive Muslim families — is not captured in the article.

Beyond my personal story, I feel that the article paints the Muslim LGBTQ community as somewhat of a novelty. Why should our gathering be described as a “somewhat surprising event”? Why should the existence of LGBTQ individuals be any more surprising in Muslim communities than in other communities? The reaction is connected to the Islamophobic notion that Muslims are backwards and intolerant.

The author also writes that, “(Many folks said that they face Islamophobia from inside the mainstream LGBTQ community).” But why the parentheses? Islamophobia is not an aside. The LGBTQ movement is led by and serves primarily white cisgender gay men. The implication is that the specific ways in which homophobia intersects with other forms of oppression are peripheral. I find this to be a core reason why LGBTQ Muslims have chosen to gather — to build a community and a movement in which our experiences are valued as central. Islamophobia not only impacts our lives within the mainstream LGBTQ community, but in mainstream American society as well.

I am also frustrated by the title of the article: “At Muslim LGBTQ retreat, attendees try to reconcile their faith and sexuality.” When I was coming into my sexual identity while attending university, I was not struggling to reconcile those things nor did I question whether Islam had a place for me. The title also does not capture the breadth and depth of reasons why this is an event that I have now attended three years in a row.

The reasons I attend the retreat are community, activism, and spirituality. I feel blessed to belong to the LGBTQ Muslim Retreat family, and now the Queer Muslims of Boston family, especially since I have felt — like many others feel — like I’m the “only one.”

At the retreat, we challenged each other on issues of privilege and oppression and worked to create an inclusive community. This past year I attended an illuminating workshop on religious diversity within Islam that challenged my own ignorance about Shi’a Muslims and last year a white antiracism caucus was held. Some workshops over the years have focused on building activism skills such as community engagement and coalition building. Others emphasized spirituality and theology.

I have found that often stories about LGBTQ folks, especially those of color, focus on the sensational negatives — the rejection, the depression, etc. Maybe these are the parts of our collective story that editors believe will tug at the heartstrings of their readers. But as I shared in an email to the reporter, I believe “the core of why the retreat should be highlighted, is that it’s a site of positivity, strength, and inspiration.”

Islam is a vibrant religion with a rich history of questioning and debate. It’s a faith with a multiplicity of interpretations and lived manifestations. It provides believers from all walks of life with an example — the Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) — who challenged the status quo in his society, upset traditions and norms, and pursued the betterment of the world while loving God fiercely. It’s a shame that the Washington Post article didn’t see the Muslim LGBTQ community in that dynamic light.

By Kaamila Mohamed

- See more at: http://www.aslanmedia.com/arts-culture/mideast-culture/21345-lgbtq-muslims-a-diverse-dynamic-and-confident-community#sthash.ktzrwXy0.dpuf

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So, no, I get no financial compensation for Man of Steel, nor does Grant Morrison whose words in ALL-STAR SUPERMAN were given voice by Russell Crowe, nor does John Byrne (maybe something for having created the robot Kelex), nor do the other writers and artists (other than creators Siegel and Shuster) whose contributions to the Superman myth were used in the film. And that’s okay. It’s not optimal, but we knew the rules going in. Hell, for me, honestly, the smile I got on my face the first time I heard lines from BIRTHRIGHT in the MoS trailer–the confirmation that I really did give something lasting back to the character who’s given me so much–is worth more to me than any dollar amount. (Your mileage may vary.)

Mark Waid, creator of Superman: BIRTHRIGHT 

Which (in my opinion) is the best Superman origin ever written, took to his blog on thrillbent in response to questions about how much of Man of Steel’s box office will be making it’s way into his mailbox, which will be zero. He’s not contractually owed a dime, and although it’s not an ideal system, he believe’s its fair. It’s a very interesting read, especially if you’re into creator rights or comics in general. 

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People of Asian descent become the model minority when they are depicted to do better than other racial minority groups, whereas they become the yellow peril when they are described to outdo White Americans. On one hand, Asian Americans as the yellow peril embody ‘‘foreignness’’ and ‘‘masculinity’’ that threaten U.S identity as a White, Christian nation; on the other hand, Asian Americans who make efforts to succeed silently and diligently— without demanding or protesting anything —symbolize ‘‘the model minority’’ and ‘‘docility’’ or ‘‘femininity’’ and confirm colorblind ideology. Considering Lee (1999) and Okihiro’s (1994) arguments, it is possible to think that the construction of the model minority stereotype is tied to creating a less threatening face of the yellow peril.

Stereotyping Asian Americans: The Dialectic of the Model Minority and the Yellow Peril, Yuko Kawai (via danapolis)

“People of Asian descent become the model minority when they are depicted to do better than other racial minority groups, whereas they become the yellow peril when they are described to outdo White Americans.”


It just has nothing to do with us. 

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i’m glad the quote mentions that the model minority myth serves to pit asian-americans against other racial minority groups, most notably african-americans and latin@s. our perceived success is used by white supremacy to justify racist, classist policies for other groups of people, and when we’re anti-black or classist ourselves, it only serves to widen that divide, which once again, benefits white supremacy.

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The bold is the most important part there. Furthermore, white supremacy also tells Asian Americans in situations where they’re being used against other PoC that THEY ARE THE GOOD ONES and that they shouldn’t “stoop” to the level of “those other ones”. Usually in a threatening manner such as: “if you stoop to their level you’re going to get THEIR treatment”.

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